When the Seams Unravel: Finding Strength in the Snags

Hey besties! It’s Thursday, October 9th, 2025, just after 9 AM here in sunny LA. Sipping on my usual iced oat latte, and today, the vibe is a little different. Yesterday, I was all about the beautiful threads that connect us, the amazing people weaving into my life’s tapestry. And don’t get me wrong, I still feel that. But today, I’m looking at the flip side – the snags, the knots, the moments when those threads feel like they’re about to unravel completely.

This "Maturation" stage has been all about growth, right? Embracing the unplanned, composing my own melody, recognizing the importance of connection. But what happens when things don't go according to plan, even the unplanned ones? What about when the melody hits a sour note, or a thread in that beautiful tapestry snaps?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this because, let’s be real, life isn’t always smooth sailing. Especially in college, in LA, trying to figure out who you are while also trying to figure out what you want for dinner. There are always going to be obstacles – a design project that flops, a friendship that hits a rough patch, a dating disaster that makes you question everything. And in the past, those moments would send me spiraling. I’d see them as proof that I wasn’t good enough, that my "design" was flawed beyond repair.

But here’s the thing I’m slowly, painfully, but surely learning: those obstacles aren’t signs of failure. They’re actually crucial to the whole growth process. Think about it in fashion: sometimes you have to rip out a seam to make it stronger, or cut away excess fabric to reveal the true silhouette. It’s messy, it’s frustrating, but it’s part of the creation.

My growth isn't just about the wins; it’s about how I navigate the losses. It’s about not letting the snags define the whole garment. It’s about recognizing that even when things feel like they’re falling apart, there’s an opportunity to re-stitch, to reinforce, to create something even more resilient and unique. It’s still hard, don’t get me wrong. My inner critic still loves to chime in with a dramatic sigh. But now, I’m learning to tell her to zip it, because I’ve got work to do. I’ve got a whole wardrobe of life to design, and a few broken stitches aren't going to stop me.

So, here’s to the obstacles. May they make us stronger, more creative, and ultimately, more authentically ourselves. Time to tackle today’s challenges, one stitch at a time. 💖✨